Stop greeting your guests like it’s 1952!
Right, lean in for a sec. Can we talk about that awkward 'school assembly' vibe that happens at the start of far too many weddings? You know the one, everyone sitting stiffly in rows, terrified to cough, waiting for a stranger to tell them when they’re allowed to smile.
It’s a bit... dusty, isn’t it?
When I’m standing at the front of your ceremony, my main mission (aside from keeping you both upright) is to make sure every single person in those seats feels like they’ve been given a massive, metaphorical hug. Because your guests aren't just 'an audience', they’re your tribe.
First things first: Let’s bin the 'Ladies and Gentlemen.'
I know, I know, it’s what we’re used to. But honestly? It’s a bit 1950s boarding school. I much prefer starting with a 'Hello, you lovely lot' or 'Welcome, chosen family.' It’s a tiny tweak, but for your mate who doesn’t fit into a neat little gender box, or your single friends who feel a bit 'othered' by traditional pairings, it’s a total game-changer. It says: You’re seen, you’re here, and you belong.
The 'No Shushing' Rule.
I like to tell people right off the bat that we aren't in a library. If a toddler decides to give a solo performance or someone’s dog barks (yes, dogs are included, too), who cares? Life is messy, and weddings should be a little too. By saying it out loud, the collective blood pressure in the room just... drops. It makes space for the neurodivergent guests or the parents who are sweating about their 'noisy' kids to just breathe.
A Nod to the 'Not-Heres'.
And look, we always have a quiet moment for the ones who couldn't make it, whether they’re stuck on a delayed flight or they’re watching from the best seats in the stars. It doesn't have to be a 'downer' moment; it’s just acknowledging that our hearts are big enough to hold the people who aren't physically in the chairs.
The 'Legal' Elephant.
Because I’m a celebrant and not a registrar, we don't have to worry about the 'state' side of things during the ceremony (we’ll leave the paperwork to the council offices, thanks!). That means we can focus entirely on your story and your people. No red tape, just a lot of heart.
At the end of the day, I want your guests to walk away thinking, 'Blimey, that felt like them.' So, if you’re looking for a ceremony that’s less 'stiff upper lip' and more 'big warm welcome,' let’s have a proper chat. I promise there won't be any 'Lords and Ladies' on my watch."
If this blog resonates with you, then get in touch; we’ve got lots to discuss!
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